Adapted excerpt from Stuff I Wish I Knew…About Newborns.
So Much Newborn Advice
New parents often hope that all of the unsolicited advice during pregnancy will now be a thing of the past. However, in many cases arriving home with your baby offers even more potential for unwelcome and often intrusive advice. Everything is up for questioning, from sleeping to feeding to clothing to nursery room wall color. Of course, most people mean well and are simply excited about having a baby around, but it can be tough to field advice especially when you’re exhausted and those hormones are still all over the place. This really never goes away as long as you have kids so you may need to simply get used to it. Of course some of the advice is helpful and worth taking on board. As for the rest? Perhaps a smile and a thank you before going back to trusting your own instincts.
Requesting and Accepting Help
Advice is one thing, but physical help is another. Some parents find it easy to accept help from friends and family, but many I talk to express regret for not being able to ask for help when they could have really used it. When you haven’t showered in days, you have laundry coming out of your ears and you’re eating cereal for dinner, you really wish someone could just be there to lend a hand for half an hour. Some people are just used to being independent and others are too proud or shy to ask. Some simply assume that other people, especially people who’ve had kids, will automatically know what you need and will just do it. Unfortunately people aren’t mind readers and everyone is so different. If you can, speak up, try to identify what you need, and know that most people are just happy to lend a hand.
I regularly post adapted excerpts from my “Stuff I Wish I Knew…” series of books. My goal is to help new and expectant parents to feel a little more prepared for what to expect on the journey to parenthood.
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